My China Kanfa.....China on My Mind

I need to talk about this again. China Wife simply doesn't want sex anymore.  With the realization I have a fairly high sex drive, on top of the fact I have a crazy work schedule, I am increasingly finding the need to "decompress".   My coworker told me to go hit a sandbag.   Fortunately, I have a pool in the back which helps, along with my semi-regular exercise, all of which help me quite a bit. But hormones are hormones, and I find myself not slowing down at all.  Of course memories of my past life in China do not help me. Still, I must wonder how long this New Normal with China Wife will last?  I'm afraid forever.  My sexual interest in my wife is a positive thing, do not get me wrong. China Wife is very happy I still find her attractive.   China Wife has a great body, and is not fat at all.  She is a pretty person, and well endowed. She is in awe of the fact I am still sexually attracted to her, which I am.  However...

I've noticed a change in China Wife. She is happy. She teases me a bit more.  Jokes around a bit more.  Even washes dishes! Never tells me when to go to bed, or when to wake up.  Never asks me what I'm doing, or tries to make me "earn my pay". She has changed. During this Pandemic, this bad time in America, I'm one of the lucky few with a good job.  I have many direct reports, and a good boss.  He and I are "aligned"(knock on wood).   Make no mistake, while I'm currently grounded from going to China, have lost my frequent flier status, and  pretty much been unable to visit suppliers anyway, I'm still putting in 65 hours a week, frequently not going to bed until the early morning hours, until my team in China is already halfway through a typical day. In short , I feel not so much overwhelmed as overworked.  Certainly no time to write a blog. And China Wife is happy. Within her own world, that is how it should be.  Within h...

In April a fellow named Le Yucheng conducted an interview with America's NBC News.  It was a big deal. Neither Chinese politicians nor diplomats frequently give interviews to the West.  And this is partially the blame of the West.   And also reflective of the inability of the Chinese Marketing Machine to make itself heard.  While the Chinese Narrative within China itself rules supreme, it falls upon death ears beyond its borders. So it was surprising to see an interview take place, albeit in Mandarin.  While the Chinese Government, along with Korea and Japan, continues for some odd reason to strangely be unable to produce fluent English speakers to present their cause to the West(nevermind our even more glaring ineptitude to do the same, in their countries, in their language), it was still quite fresh to finally see a high Chinese government official coming out to speak to a foreign reporter.  Something Jiang Zemin used to do on a regular basis. ...

I posted on WeChat last week the SpaceX launch, and it was cool.  I remember as a young boy in my hometown the day  a 747 circled our city with a white plane on top.  It was the US Government introducing us all to the Space Shuttle.  I was in the park playing basketball.  We all stopped to take a look. And yeah that was pretty cool, too. For thirty years America had a Space Shuttle. Then some incompetent punk ass bureaucrat thought it would be even more awesome to let the Russians (Gasp!) take over the role of launching Americans into space.  How humiliating.  Utterly, fucking humiliating.  And that shit went on for nine long years. So anyway I watched the launch, and Thank God nothing blew up.  And I posted a short clip on WC. And I got zero likes. And I wasn't surprised....at all. I think I've received zero likes only once before, and I can't even remember when that was. The Chinese without question consider America not only t...

One can easily tell if one has been to China. Within the first few minutes of conversation said person will quickly espouse, "China needs a dictator......" One would be surprised how many people in positions of power have never visited the Heavenly Kingdom.   This particularly holds true for America, but probably within  your nation too For if any of our "know it all" politicians had actually been to China(rather than just dropping into Hong Kong like Ted Cruz apparently did recently), then surely their criticisms would have had a tad more nuance.   A bit more sophistication. Listening to ignorant people in America(usually our US Senators) talk about how bad China is, is quite embarrassing.   Readers of this blog know I'm not a suck up to China, but neither do I go out of my way just to "piss on" China either. However, I think a country as important as China doe merit visiting the place, before making the decision to carte blanche criticize...

In 1939 the vaunted Russian Army attacked little Finland.  A million men attacked.  Expected to last a several weeks at most, the Finnish Army punched far above it's weight,  and stopped the Russians "cold" in their tracks and inflicted heavy losses.  A hint of what was later to come against Germany, the Russians took it all in stride, but it was not until Spring 1940 that Finland finally capitulated.  Alas, looked upon as weak and tottering, Germany attacked Russia.  Greatly underestimating the Russian ability to field armies, the Germans eventually lost.  Despite the horrific losses inflicted against them, the Russians simply kept coming.  Russia wasn't so weak of course.  Still, I cannot but help think that many an "educated" person may draw a similar parallel between the Russia of 1940 and America in 2020. Never before has America seemed so incompetent.  So lost and directionless.  So authoritarian.  So helpless.......

I've come across many Chinese women that have married laowai. Some are happy. Many are not. As a crazy man married to a China Wife for a few decades now,  I've seen my share of unhappy marriages.   I'd love to talk about the many unhappy Chinese marriages themselves, but that would not be an exclusive club.  Many Americans are in unhappy marriages, Canadians, French, etc.  It is just part of life.  People grow apart.  I find the number of women however in unhappy Chinese marriages, with Chinese men however, to be proportionately higher.  I do Alas, this is not the topic of this post.  And I've probably already written about it.  I'm closing in on 400 posts......I'd have to go back and look for it. Instead, I want to talk about why in my view so many Chinese women have trouble finding the right laowai for them. My answer is not language.   Sure, it would be great if many a Laowai could speak Chinese.  But doesn...