Time for a "fluff" post....
Today I’d like to talk about the results of the recent China Congress, and
what factions within that Congress are vying for what……
Oh fuck that!
Today is “Fluff Post” Day!
Today is not the post to read about the Uighurs….I’ve damn near given up
trying to be “high brow” with you guys.
Am I disappointed that you guys don’t really care so much abt the serious
topics I occasionally write about?
I need to admit, that in the beginning, I was. But it’s my fault. Because I know fuck all about what is
happening in Zhongnanhai(nor does anyone else), so by default all I can do is
write about what I see around me, either when in Shenzhen, or in the States’.
(At last count I have over 110 original posts here. Nothing regurgitated from a news outlet. Some topics in common yes, but all with original thought. I'm glad to see some of you still perusing them.)
My thoughts on local things around me are piling up, and I’d really like to
talk abt them a bit.
My wife Part 1
My wife has one personality attribute I’m not too much of an
admirer of. (there are several of mine,
she can’t stand. Listening to podcasts
while at home is one of them)
She’s everybody’s friend.
I don’t like that.
Don’t get me wrong.
It’s good to be friendly. But
it’s a fact of life that when one is too accessible one sooner or later will be
taken advantage of. Simple as that. And in my view, many people within our
Chinese community have done just that.
Thus she often finds herself busy helping others, to the detriment of
having her own personal time.
I’m proud to say I’m the opposite. I’m not a cold person. I just give off vibes. People don’t readily approach me for
help. And that’s just fine by me.
I’ve told my wife to learn how to say “no”. While my wife is more than capable of
saying “no” to me, this word is not part of her normal vocabulary usage when
helping others. Thus she is often taken
advantage of. As a result the phone
never stops ringing.
The phone often rings during dinnertime. I now have to forcibly(imagine muscles
flexed with a Superman jaw) ask her not to answer the phone as we all sit down
for dinner. It really is one of my pet
peeves when my wife is talking while we all are forced to eat without her.
Then I find myself asking out loud just who in the hell would call during
dinnertime? I used to simply answer the
phone before my wife did, tell them curtly it’s dinnertime and she’ll call
back, or if late at night, simply tell them it’s too late. (my daughters are in bed by this time as
well. )
I’ve paid a price for this. My wife
get’s irritated by my actions. And most
of my wive’s friends have stopped inviting us to group dinners, or holidays.
“We’ll wait til your husband is back in China”, they say.
What it boils down to is I have a wife that just can’t say “NO” to
anything. I’ve mentioned in the past how
she has this problem with her parents.
Now some people would call this a “nice, obedient, traditional Chinese girl”.
I’d call it being bullied.
Good grief.
View Count Update
Thank you Aruba for showing up!
Tanzania….Congo…ditto!
Pakistan….Iran….nice to see you again!
My views are overwhelmingly from the United States. But I guess I get views from maybe a dozen to
fifteen different countries a day.
While my daily view counts aren’t enormous, it’s a good feeling to see
that my blog is still viewed here and there.
On average I’d say one of my posts equates to what a popular Atlantic
Monthly post would get. This is
thoroughly a personal blog. You won’t be
getting any summaries of the ‘news’ here.
No breakdown of any
Congress. We all know where to go for
those.
It would be easy for me to greatly increase my view counts,
I know. All I’d need to do is reminisce
about all my sexual experiences, thrust by thrust. (That would do it!)
Don’t count on it though.
The story of the bodyshop and the letter
My wife has three female friends that have all lost their
husbands. Two of them within the past 6
months. One of which was entirely “healthy” before dying of lung cancer. A nonsmoker at that. Go figure.
Both while I was back in Shenzhen.
She went to the funerals.
One particular widow is a tall, gangly lady from Dongbei. Very thin.
She’s a nurse here in America and works two 12 hour shifts per
week. (That’s it. She makes abt $50k annual)
One of a few other nurses we know. (It scares me she doesn’t speak English so well. Actually, none of the Chinese nurses in
America we know speak English very well. ) While the death of a spouse
is maddenly tragic even to endure, and I hope it never happens to me, we’ve not
been too happy with how she’s tried to use this event to her advantage.
Case in point:
A few weeks ago her car had some body shop issues that
needed to be addressed. Her son had driven out in the snow and
promptly wrecked it. She got the quote
of $4000 from the local dealership. She
felt it was, high, mentioned she was recently widowed, and the Toyota
dealership responds by fixing it for free!
Even I was aghast. (she then
called us and asked if she should drop off a few dozen doughnuts to the
bodyshop..?)
Regrettably, that sent this recent widower the wrong message.
How so?
At the same time this was taking place her son was applying for
college. However, his grades were not
even good enough to merit acceptance into the local state university.(I’ve been
finding out not all Chinese moms here are Tiger Moms) As such, he will only be able to gain
acceptance to a 2nd tier school.
The tuition is cheap, and mother doesn’t seem to mind. Yet during the application process, she had
a fierce argument with her son. When
writing his essay she told him to write about his late father. Without question, she was trying to leverage
a tragic situation in the wrong way. Her
experience in the body shop simply encouraged the attempt. To her son’s credit, he refused. His rightfully placed obstinance earned him
a slap in the face from his mother. The
boy got in anyway.
I hesitate to call the above an example of an Ugly Chinese. Rather, I’d like to think it was someone,
because of having benefited unexpectedly from the good will of someone else,
who upon discovering the power of a previously unknown weapon, mistakenly
thought this power could be applied again in another situation.
Our 15 yr old
guest
I’ve alluded to this young lady in a couple of previous posts. In short, she’s a millionaire in waiting,
because of her parent’s real estate. She
just doesn’t know it yet. She’s addicted
to her Iphone and American TV shows, is very mature for her age, and I must
admit speaks rather nice English, for only having lived her a bit more than one
semester.
However, she is a great reflection of China’s urban youth. She tested
in the bottom 1% of her High School entrance exam(for America), still got
accepted to a school, and wouldn’t you know it, get’s straight A’s.
Wow!
Now, there are a few things I want to say here. One is that all over the world, there are private
high schools teetering on bankruptcy, that have been “saved” due to the sudden
influx of Chinese Money. Good for the
high schools, and good for the parents.
SO-SO for the kid. Going to a so-so
high school will not impress all those high flying universities that these
young Chinese kids aspire, to. In short,
I doubt these kids need to work very hard to get those straight A’s. Yet she was turned down by every high school
except one.
Her parents pay $40,000 a year for tuition, room and board. And they plan on doing this until she
graduates from college!
These are good people and they are very serious abt their daughter. We’ve tried in vain to get her parents to
get her to apply to a more challenging private high school. She’d have a better chance of getting
accepted, for sure.
Her parents are fighting the idea.
Again, this goes to show that not every Chinese mom is a Tigermom.
However, the other day when spending the weekend with us, this 15 yr old
revealed to us her goal is to go to Stanford.
Still oblivious to the quality of
her school, we candidly told her she would have to go to a better school if she
wanted to go to Stanford. Not at all to
my surprise she is fighting the idea.
It’s good to have aspirations, but one
must put in the work as well. While I admit
to generalizing, my interactions with China’s Urban Youth are pretty much reflective
of the above. All desire no sweat. Still, a great report card will definitely get
her into our Finest State School.
Our neverending schedule
I’ve accepted the fact I will just have one day a week with the kids, to do
things I want to do. That day is Saturday, in the afternoon. Weekdays are out of the question. Sat morn are swim lessons. Than to math studyhall, than free in the
afternoon. This is our time. Our one time in the week. I work hard to get them outside, hiking, or
some other outdoor activity.
(Before I continue below I do want to say my oldest does receive report
cards now, and she did get all A’s this quarter. And it is my goal to keep them both
busy. And it is a fine line to
walk. And their mom is selfless in this
regard )
Sundays are violin lessons with some Chinese guy 30 miles away at
10am. Than Chinese school all
afternoon. I guess I shouldn’t complain
the kids being busy so much. They both
have two instruments now, the piano as well as the violin.
It’s apparently easier to learn violin once you’ve played piano. The older one learns a lot of stilted stuff
in violin. I’ve exposed her to more
Americana though, to mom’s chagrin. She can
now play both Amazing Grace and Dixie on the violin. I figure her Chinese teacher will never
teach her those things. It’s up to me.
The 7 year did have a cry this week.
She told me while crying that the Chinese piano teacher criticized her
lesson. Said she wasn’t good
enough. Said she wasn’t playing hard
enough. I believe my daughter when I hear
those things, and I don’t like it one bit when the teacher takes the lessons
too seriously. I’d rather my kinds enjoy
both the teacher and the music a bit more than they do now. Problem is my wife likes the discipline. It’s all about the achievement, and enjoyment
itself takes a back seat. And my wife
is the feudal one. Rarely disagrees with
a teacher.
Still I continue to believe my girls’ do need a bit more downtime in the
day. (I’m working on it)
If you’ve made it this far, ….my wife
Part 2
I finally figured out my wife’s breasts are 36 D’s. For years I’ve been wanting to buy her
something, but it seems most of her lingerie was foreign bought, with foreign
sizes, and I was baffled for the longest time.
The other day she came home with some new things, and they
are sexy as hell. That’s how I know
after 21 years of marriage finally know my wife’s rack size. I wish
she’d let me take a pic of them, but she’s not there yet. I don’t know too many 36 D’s in China, but it’s
always a blast when we make love, and she’s on top.
Now, I have come across a few others that approach and
actually exceed her in size, but their legs are as thick as trees. (my wife is also a size 2)
I may someday do a post on our sex life. I think it would be educational to discuss
how the sex life of a laowai and his mainland Sino wife have evolved over two
decades. Ours is still strong.
She was making breakfast for the kids yesterday in a T-shirt
and pj’s, nipples looking very stately, I might add, and I was ready to throw her on the kitchen
island.
We MEN all have to define ourselves. We’re either a tits or an ass fellow. I decided late in life I was an Ass guy. I’m now rethinking that position.
And lastly….how do you
know your Chinese wife/lover has finally mentally “left” her native country and
settled down snugly in yours?
When she stops taking a quickie
shower after sex……
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